Female roles in dating

24-Apr-2020 13:01 by 9 Comments

Female roles in dating - dating matt damen

Now a lot of Christians at this point are shutting me down.

Calling “forced sex” rape in our language and culture would be like referring to every instance of killing as murder.

My new position is as follows: Forced sex within marriage by a husband toward his wife is not in and of itself a sin but it can be a sin under certain circumstances.

The “Markland Letter” case which I addressed in my article “It is Not a Woman’s Consent That Matters, It is God’s” where the man forced sex on his wife after surgery would be an example of a husband sinfully forcing himself on his wife.

The Bible actually addresses forced marriage and as a result of marriage forced sex in the book of Deuteronomy.

God granted the right of men to take women as one of the many spoils of war as long as they were not one of seven forbidden nations in which everyone was to be killed: “But the women, and the little ones, and the cattle, and all that is in the city, even all the spoil thereof, shalt thou take unto thyself; and thou shalt eat the spoil of thine enemies, which the Lord thy God hath given thee.”“10 When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and the Lord thy God hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive, 11 And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife;13 And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.14 And it shall be, if thou have no delight in her, then thou shalt let her go whither she will; but thou shalt not sell her at all for money, thou shalt not make merchandise of her, because thou hast humbled her.” So in summary God allowed men to take by force women as captives of war.

I am going to speak more to the term “rape” later on in this article.

Biblically speaking all instances of forced sex are not considered rape any more than all instances of killing are considered murder.

28 If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; In the above passage from Deuteronomy chapter 22 we find God’s definition of rape as opposed to our modern definition of rape. Does he say it is simply when a man humbles (has forced sex) with a woman? Instead we find that rape in God’s eyes is when a man has forced sex with a woman who is he not married to.

The Bible covers both a betrothed (or married) woman and also virgin woman.

It is the context which determines if a particular instance of forced sex is rape just as it is the context which determines if a particular killing is murder.

The only forced sex the Bible ever condemns is forced sex OUTSIDE of marriage.

While the Bible does not speak specifically to this case of a man forcing himself on his wife, I believe it is a case of physical abuse. In the same way that when someone is wrongfully killed it might be first degree murder, second degree murder or man slaughter what we call “physical abuse” and what we call “rape” is dependent on the relationship between the man and woman in question. But what we call it, and how it is punished or dealt with is very different depending on the circumstances.” The emergence of the Me Too movement lead me to restudy and reconsider my understanding of what the Bible says about sexual consent.