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So a shoddy treatment of me from someone who claims to love me is not on. I am dealing with rejection, emotional abuse and co-dependancy. Totally not looking for anyone he walked up to me and I thought hey he’s cute let’s give it a go.And if he ever does come sashaying back, i will let him know how i felt and he can stay only if he is 100% on board…he will have to prove it. I have been dating someone for one month maybe 6 dates. We have been talking each single day of this month but he is so busy during the week because of the job and we don’t text so much during the week, but at least we arrange dates, ask about other’s days and he says me good night/morning. I am getting therapy now and i want the day to come when he doesnt consume my thoughts. I hadn’t been in the dating life since me and my Childrens father stopped talking (which is for 2yrs).
I truly value my happiness and value as an individual.
over a week ago we had an amazing outdoor activity. So we spent that weekend training, and we had lunch and laughs afterwards.
After that weekend, he never contacted me or we haven’t talked.
He told me it was a slight chance I could be pregnant and yeah I got mad but it was as much as my fault as his. No calls, no messages, deleted me off his social media, I’m hurt. People aren’t definable, relationships aren’t definable. We meet someone, we go head on into “being serious”. As a woman I’ve been told by magazines, reality shows, media that relationships are this or that but the real deal is, humans are too complex to be fit into criteria.
We get too caught up in how people are supposed to act and our expectations continually suffer because of it. What is a certainty is that you can always keep being plugged into your own life, at all times. Genuine respect, friendship, emotional connection is important when you first meet someone you might like.
Sometimes I didn’t realise men were interested in me and I ghosted them unintentionally when it turned out they were interested, so, I have done the ghosting myself. He began to slither away, but we would always get back together. So, I am making the effort to work on myself, mentally I feel great.
Thing is, everyone talking on this forum about being ghosted has probably done it themselves to others whether you realise it or not!!! It’s not just, “I met the greatest person and I’m so sad they weren’t into me.” Let emotion take a back seat, enjoy your life, take into consideration that you are still a catch, that you too have power (not just the person who decided to leave) and you should weigh up LOGISTICALLY whether they were actually, indeed, right for you. 3 weeks ago when I was in the hospital for a week after suffering my first seizures while at work, my ghost had had enough. I am finally sleeping and feeling rested allows me to make better decisions, I know I didn’t do anything wrong, so it’s his loss.
I know it’s hard to accept, especially if you really liked this guy, but you really do need to just trust that it’s for the best.
Why would you want to be with a guy who doesn’t want to be with you anyway? You want to be with a guy who can’t believe his luck that a girl like you would choose him! He may have left you, don’t let him take your dignity with him.
And you can’t do the wrong thing with the right man.
I have felt the beginnings of self doubt and sadness; and even anger.
Until today he has not responded, though I see him always online on Facebook.