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“If the sober person is in early recovery or if the drinker is a problem drinker, the chances for a good dating experience are dim.Though most people won’t wait two years into sobriety to start dating, keep in mind that the smell of alcohol, the taste of a kiss [with someone who’s been drinking], the clinking of ice in the glass, as well as the bar and the bar scene could be triggers.”Irene Carroll, a North Carolina–based addiction therapist, says, “Dating is just so risky for people in early in recovery, especially so if you’re considering going out with someone who isn’t sober. ” Naturally, when going out with someone who drinks, sober people often wonder when and how to reveal the fact that they don’t drink.

“If you’re talking about someone with good sobriety dating someone who is a casual or responsible drinker, there isn’t necessarily a problem,” she says.“ He had a reputation as a serious partier and he wasn't in a program,” Amy reveals.“I wanted to believe that his problem had just ‘gone away,’ but I knew better, of course.” Her takeaway?As with everything in recovery, you must be open and willing—even if all the advice you get goes against your gut.If you’re stuck in a situation where there is no time to gather wisdom—say your partner’s mom hands you a glass of wine during a visit—don’t stress.Should you follow Faulkner’s advice and ask your beloved attend meetings?

Do you invite him or her along to socialize with your sober posse? Bring your questions to everyone you know with more sober experience: Ask your sponsor, your sober fellowship, and, if you’re the praying type, pray for guidance.The rules of dating had shifted completely since I was a young lass and, without the social lubricant of martinis or wine, my old-school M. of getting wasted and ending up in bed with a cute guy from the party clearly wasn’t an option. Insensitive, I have gone on hundreds of dates—a handful with guys from the rooms but mostly online finds, generally social drinkers. So I decided to look into what’s worked for other sober folks, and to see what experts had to say about the matter of dating in recovery.cautions that relationships are “the number one relapse trigger” so it’s first important to take the time to “heal yourself first.” Faulkner’s healthy-dating-in-sobriety checklist is key: “You should have a solid base of recovery—two years; no relapses; you should have worked the steps; you should be meeting often with your sponsor to discuss dating; and you should regularly be attending your home-group meetings.” She adds, “Both people should attend Al-Anon meetings, too.In my dating experience, just because a guy doesn’t drink like an alcoholic, it doesn’t mean he’s perfectly sane and has his shit together.Don’t assume that ‘normies’ are superior to you because they don’t have an addiction.”Relationships often go bad, and people in recovery must often be more prepared than most for the possibility of breakup.“I started dating a guy who told me he didn’t drink,” she recalls.

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