Dating too nice
Dating too nice
Do buys who are too nice also seem entitled, becasue they think you owe them since they did nice things for you—things maybe you didn’t even ask for? I think “nice guys” feel entitled to women because they are nice.
We were none too pleased with this: Maybe we are not old fashioned enough, but we figured if a girl makes it out of the New York subway, she should easily capable (and independent) enough to walk five blocks to a bar.
Editor’s Note: Recently, I signed up for the online dating app Lulu.
Not because I’m looking for online action (my Lulu status is “Single, and happy,”) but to see just how it worked.
But there’s a difference between being nice and being a pushover/yes-man/suck-up.
So being nice is a positive thing as long as you’re not just being nice to please everybody, and you should still be able to be firm in your own beliefs and say no to people when you need to.
If a guy is too easy, he may be ruining his chances.
I've seen some friends take their time with a nice guy. Maybe a woman wants to meet some new guys and "sew her wild oats" while the nice guy fawns over her.
They were thoughtful, respectful, and knew their own minds. “Nice guys” = the guys who claim to be nice, but get pissed if a girl isn’t into them just because they’re nice fyi haha …. In my experience, once a nice guy knows I’m ready, he goes for it and had no problem pleasing me.
Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work out, on their part or mine. Scorching Sloth You’re right Purring Plate, there are nice guys and then “nice guys.”Mustard Mimosa“Too nice” is definitely a thing.
But the more important part of this conversation is that Jill stated that Dave (who adores her) is too nice.
A little more about Dave: he is well off, takes care of Jill as a friend, and asks her to do fun things all the time..know...dates? I had a friend who is now married who suffered from the "nice guy syndrome".
I recently had the following IM conversation with my friend Jill: RICH ( AM): punks, and rock stars JILL ( AM): pretty much RICH ( AM): hence Dave and you will never be together JILL ( AM): he's a good guy RICH ( AM): haha too clean cut and nice JILL ( AM): pretty much Poor Dave!